$49 today instead of $67 later · 25 spots · closing September 1st 2026

Your whole wedding in one place, starting tonight.

Plan it yourself. Just not by yourself.

A complete wedding planning system that shows you where to start, what comes next, and what to say to your vendors, your family and your partner.

The Command Center + The Decision Workbook + 3 guides · Instant access · Yours to keep

$49

$49 during founding member pricing · $67 after 1 September 2026

Get the system for $49

30-day refund · One payment · Works in Canva and Google Sheets, both free

A rooftop wedding ceremony aisle: white chiavari chairs tied with blush and lilac ribbon and topped with cream hydrangea and peach rose posies, leading to a floral arch under a bright cloudy sky

The real problem

You’re not short on inspiration. You’re short on a system.

Your venue contract sits in your email. The florist quote is a screenshot. Your budget lives in a spreadsheet your cousin sent you, your guest list is in Notes, and the dress you love is somewhere in a Pinterest board with 340 other pins.

You have read the checklists. They tell you to set a budget. They do not tell you which costs brides forget until the invoice arrives. They tell you to contact vendors. They do not tell you what to ask, or how to spot what a quote leaves out. They tell you to make a guest list. They say nothing about the conversation with your mother when she adds eleven names.

So you research. Then you research the same question again two weeks later, because you cannot remember what you decided or where you wrote it down.

A checklist tells you what needs doing. This tells you what to ask, what it costs, and what to say.

The shift

From 340 pins and three group chats to one place you trust.

Right now

  • Planning across Pinterest, Notes, screenshots and three group chats
  • Not sure where to start, so you start everywhere
  • Worried you have missed something expensive
  • Researching constantly, finishing nothing
  • Unsure what to ask a vendor, so you accept the first quote
  • Avoiding the money conversation with your family
  • Carrying the whole wedding in your head

Once you set this up

  • One place for tasks, budget, guests, vendors and responsibilities
  • A clear first step and a clear next step
  • Costs on your radar before they hit your budget
  • Questions ready before you get on a call with a vendor
  • Language ready for the conversations you have been putting off
  • A plan other people can execute during the wedding week

How it works

Four steps. You can do the first one tonight.

  1. 01

    Set up your wedding

    Open the Command Center, enter your date, venue, total budget and the people involved. The Start Here tab walks you through it, numbered, in order.

  2. 02

    Work through the decisions

    A blank planner asks you what your floral budget is. The Decision Workbook tells you what a florist's quote usually leaves out, and then asks. Every planning area works that way, so you decide once and stop researching it.

  3. 03

    Handle the conversations

    When you hit a vendor call, a budget question or a family disagreement, open the guide for it. You'll find everything you need in there.

  4. 04

    Prepare the handoff

    Fill the Wedding Week tab so your sister, your coordinator and your photographer know where to be and who to call, without asking you on the morning.

The Complete Decision Method

Every wedding decision has five parts.

LIVE&WED gives you all five, in one complete system.

  1. 1

    Decide

    What exactly are we choosing?

    Decision Workbook

    Make the right choice with clarity.

  2. 2

    Cost

    What will it really cost?

    What Nobody Tells You

    See the full picture — hidden costs, add-ons and true investment.

  3. 3

    Communicate

    What do we need to ask or confirm?

    Vendor Communication Kit

    Know exactly what to ask, how to ask it, and what to get in writing.

  4. 4

    Navigate

    Who else is affected by this decision?

    Conversation Vault

    Find the right words for the right people, at the right time.

  5. 5

    Track

    Where does the final decision live?

    Planning Dashboard

    Record decisions, contracts, payments and deadlines in one place you can trust.

Most wedding checklists

Tell you what to do.

That’s only the first part.

LIVE&WED

Helps you actually get it decided.

All five parts. Every time.

Inside the system

This is what you actually get.

Five pages of The Ultimate Wedding Planner Canva workbook fanned out: the white cover with THE ULTIMATE WEDDING PLANNER in black and gold serif type, a vendor question page with name and address fields, a My Dream Wedding mood board page of outdoor ceremony and bouquet photos, an Attire page showing a backless white gown and a rail of dresses, and a blank rentals budget table.
The Decision Workbook — The Canva workbook you copy, edit and print
Five pages of the What Nobody Tells You PDF fanned out: the blush cover in the centre, with interior pages listing hidden costs such as drinks and corkage, supplier and staff meals, cake cutting fees, alterations and hair and makeup trials, each broken into What it is, Why it's missed and What to do.
The Hidden Costs guide — 40+ costs, each with what it is, why it's missed and what to do
Five pages of The Vendor Communication Kit PDF fanned out: the ivory cover in the centre, with interior pages covering where to look for vendors, checking a vendor is legitimate, comparing quotes line by line, minimum spends, and highlighted word-for-word scripts to send.
The Vendor Communication Kit — Emails, questions and negotiation scripts, ready to send
Five pages of The Conversation Vault PDF fanned out: the cream cover in the centre, with interior pages listing situations such as someone isn't invited, a plus-one, a late RSVP and money promised that isn't coming, alongside highlighted scripts you can say word for word.
The Conversation Vault — 80+ lines for the conversations no checklist prepares you for
The Command Center Start Here tab: an eight-step numbered setup list telling you to enter your wedding details, add your people and roles, set your total budget, review the expense list, assign task owners, build the household invitation list, add each guest and track RSVPs, above a Your Wedding block showing the couple, wedding date, venue and a days-to-go countdown.
Start Here tab — Your first 20 minutes, numbered
The Command Center dashboard: Money panel showing total budget, committed spend, amount paid, outstanding to vendors and remaining budget; a People panel with households invited, guests invited, confirmed, awaiting reply and declined; a Planning panel with total, completed, remaining and overdue tasks beside a Next Up list of upcoming bookings with dates; and a Budget by Category table with budgeted, actual, paid, outstanding and variance columns.
Dashboard — Budget, guests and tasks at a glance
The Task Delegation tab: a table of wedding tasks with category, phase, assigned owner, support person, priority, due date, status, days left and notes, alongside an Open Tasks By Person summary counting open and completed tasks for each member of the wedding party.
Task delegation — What needs attention, and who owns it
The Expense Tracker tab: expenses grouped into Venue & Vendors and Catering & Bar sections, each line showing status, who it is assigned to, budgeted amount, actual cost, variance, amount paid, outstanding, payment due date, who is paying, the vendor contact and notes, with category totals at the bottom of each block.
Budget and expenses — Every category, planned against actual
Two Command Center tabs: Guest List — Households, one row per invitation with addressee, guests' names, party size, full postal address, email, phone and save-the-date, invitation and thank-you tracking; and Guest Tracker — People, one row per guest with side, RSVP, meal selection, dietary notes, table number and plus-one, next to a meal count summary for the caterer.
Guest list and RSVP tracker — Households, invitations and replies

The core

Two tools that carry the whole wedding.

Google Sheet

The Command Center

One sheet for your wedding details, budget, expense categories, tasks, task owners, invitation households, guest list, RSVPs and dashboard. Your planning stops living in six apps.

Canva workbook

The Decision Workbook

Every decision, in the order it needs making. Part one is the foundations: budget, guest list, venue and the vendors you book first. Part two is everything that hangs off them, from styling and stationery to timelines and the wedding week itself. You stop starting each planning topic from a blank page.

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Where this sits

What the free apps leave to you.

Free apps

What you pay
Free
Checklist of tasks
Yes
Budget, guests and tasks connected
Partly
Sequenced by dependency, not calendar
No
Tells you what to ask vendors
No
Words for family conversations
No
Flags commonly missed costs
No
Wedding-week handoff document
No
Yours after the wedding
Yes
Who does the work
You

Etsy planner

What you pay
$15–25 once
Checklist of tasks
Yes
Budget, guests and tasks connected
No
Sequenced by dependency, not calendar
No
Tells you what to ask vendors
No
Words for family conversations
No
Flags commonly missed costs
No
Wedding-week handoff document
No
Yours after the wedding
Yes
Who does the work
You

Planning membership

What you pay
$20–30 a month, $300+ across a planning cycle
Checklist of tasks
Yes
Budget, guests and tasks connected
Yes
Sequenced by dependency, not calendar
Partly
Tells you what to ask vendors
Yes
Words for family conversations
No
Flags commonly missed costs
No
Wedding-week handoff document
sometimes
Yours after the wedding
No
Who does the work
You

Full-service planner

What you pay
Varies, usually the most expensive option
Checklist of tasks
Yes
Budget, guests and tasks connected
Yes
Sequenced by dependency, not calendar
Yes
Tells you what to ask vendors
Yes
Words for family conversations
sometimes
Flags commonly missed costs
Yes
Wedding-week handoff document
Yes
Yours after the wedding
No
Who does the work
Them

The Decided Bride

What you pay
$49 once
Checklist of tasks
Yes
Budget, guests and tasks connected
Yes
Sequenced by dependency, not calendar
Yes
Tells you what to ask vendors
Yes
Words for family conversations
Yes
Flags commonly missed costs
Yes
Wedding-week handoff document
Yes
Yours after the wedding
Yes
Who does the work
You

A full-service planner covers all of this. If you have the budget and you want someone else running it, hire one. This is for the wedding you are running yourself.

The bonuses

But wait, there’s way more.

Three guides included with the system, for the parts of planning nobody hands you a template for.

Bonus one

The Hidden Costs — What No One Tells You

The 40+ costs couples forget, listed before they reach your budget.

Service charges layered on top of catering. Overtime on a photographer's contract. The corkage fee nobody mentioned. Postage on 90 invitations weighing more than one stamp. Alterations, tips, delivery windows, the second hair stylist you booked in month nine.

None of these break a wedding on their own. Six of them together break a budget.

This guide names them so you can decide about them in month two rather than month eleven.

Bonus two

The Vendor Communication Kit

You are about to spend more with these people than on anything else you have bought. Walk in with the questions written.

55+ scripted lines for vendors

Know what to ask, what to clarify and what to write, without composing every message from scratch. Inside:

  • Questions to ask each vendor category before you book
  • How to request a quote that includes everything
  • How to compare two quotes that are not comparable
  • What to check in a contract before you sign
  • How to negotiate without being unpleasant about it
  • How to confirm a change in writing
  • What to send when a vendor goes quiet, raises a price or misses something

Bonus three

The Conversation Vault

Find the words for the hard conversations, without making a sensitive situation worse.

80+ lines you can actually say

  • Telling your parents what your budget actually is
  • Setting a boundary with someone contributing money
  • Cutting the guest list without cutting the relationship
  • Saying no to plus-ones
  • Saying no to children
  • Handling a family member who keeps overriding your decisions
  • Dividing responsibilities with a fiancé who says he does not mind either way
  • Delivering a decision people will not like

One full script · cutting the guest list

“I want to be honest with you about where we are with the guest list. Our venue and our budget give us a hard number, and we have already gone over it. It is not about who matters to us — it is about what the room holds. We have had to keep it to people we have both seen in the last year. I would rather tell you that myself than have you hear it from someone else.”

Every wedding has three or four of these conversations. You already know which ones are yours.

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Why I built this

I planned my own wedding. Then I spent years watching other brides plan theirs.

Tia on her wedding day, smiling in an off-shoulder lace gown and veil

I am not a wedding planner. That is the point.

I planned my own wedding without one, because I wanted to keep the money for the wedding itself and because I have always liked doing things myself. Everything in here comes from doing the thing you are about to do, and then spending ten years beside other people doing it.

What I could not do was find the answers to my questions. Every checklist told me to book a florist. None told me what to ask her, or that the quote I was looking at covered arrangements but not installation, delivery or teardown.

Then I started writing about it. Brides found the blog and wrote to me, and the questions were never about colour palettes. They were about a mother who kept adding names. A budget nobody in the family would say out loud. A fiancé who said he did not mind either way.

Long after my own wedding, I stayed in this world. I have been designing wedding stationery ever since, which means I still sit with couples in the middle of planning. The questions have not changed in ten years.

So I built the thing I wanted: the system, and the words.

Tia, founder of LIVE&WED

Honest fit

Who this is for.

This is for you if

  • You are planning without a full-service planner
  • Your wedding is roughly 6 to 18 months away
  • You have enough riding on this that a missed cost matters
  • You have a job, or a life, or both
  • You want to make the decisions yourself and stop inventing the process

This is not for you if

  • You have already hired a planner running the whole wedding
  • Your wedding is next month
  • You are looking for more inspiration rather than a system
  • You want someone else to make the decisions

Founding round · 25 places

Everything you get for $49.

  • The Command Center

    Google Sheet

  • The Decision Workbook

    Canva

  • Bonus: The Hidden Costs, What No One Tells You

    PDF · 40+ costs

  • Bonus: The Vendor Communication Kit

    PDF · 55+ scripted lines

  • Bonus: The Conversation Vault

    PDF · 80+ scripted lines

$49

$49 as a founding member · $67 once the founding round closes on 1 September 2026

Get the system for $49

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Founding member round

Why it is $49 right now.

This is new. I am opening 25 founding places at $49 instead of $67, and I want something in return: once you have set the system up, tell me honestly what worked and what did not.

Twenty-five is not a marketing number. It is how many people I can read and reply to myself. Every founding member gets a reply from me, not a form, and I am not able to do that for two hundred.

You get the complete system, every future update, and the price stays yours. I get the feedback that shapes version two.

The round closes on 1 September 2026, or when the 25 places go. After that the price is $67 and stays there.

Founding members receive the system at a reduced price in exchange for honest feedback. Any review published from a founding member will say so.

Guarantee

The No Reason Refund

30 day money back guarantee seal

Thirty days. If you want your money back, just say so. You do not need a reason, I will not ask for one, and you keep everything you have already downloaded.

Questions

Before you buy.

I have already read every checklist on the internet. What is different here?

The counts. 40+ costs named before they reach your budget. 55+ scripted lines for vendors. 80+ lines for the conversations nobody writes about. A checklist tells you to contact a florist. This tells you what to ask her, what her quote is likely to leave out, and what to write when the price changes.

How much will this cost me in total?

$49, once. No monthly fee, no renewal, and every future update is included. For comparison, wedding planning memberships generally run $20 to $30 a month, which is $300 or more across a typical planning cycle.

What format is it?

The Decision Workbook is a Canva template you copy to your own account and edit or print. The Command Center is a Google Sheet you copy to your Drive. The three bonus guides are PDFs. Canva and Google Sheets are both free, and there is nothing to install.

I have never used Canva or Google Sheets.

Both open in your browser. The setup instructions cover copying each file to your own account, and it takes about two minutes per file.

Can I print the workbook?

Yes. The Canva template exports to PDF at print size.

How is the workbook organized?

In two parts, because the order matters. Part one holds the decisions everything else depends on: budget, guest count, venue, first vendors. Part two holds everything that hangs off them. You are not scrolling past styling detail in your first week, when what you need is a budget and a guest count.

How do I get it after I pay?

A download link arrives by email within a minute of checkout. If it does not, write to [ADDRESS] and I will send it manually.

Can my fiancé use it too?

Yes. Share the Command Center with him, your mother or your maid of honour. The People and Responsibilities section exists for exactly this.

I have already booked my venue and two vendors. Is it too late?

No. Enter what you have decided and the system organizes what is left. Most buyers arrive with several things already booked.

I am not an organized person.

The structure is built. You fill in your wedding. That is the whole job.

It sounds like a lot of files.

Two run the wedding: the Command Center and the Decision Workbook. You open the bonus guides only when their situation comes up.

I already use The Knot.

Keep it. The Knot tracks. This one tells you what to ask, what costs to expect and what to say. Those are the parts the apps leave to you.

Why is this more than a $19 Etsy planner?

An Etsy planner sells you blank pages. This one includes the vendor questions, the overlooked costs, the conversation scripts and the wedding-week handoff.

My wedding is unusual.

The system organizes the process. Every decision inside it stays yours.

I am not in the US. Does this still work?

Yes. The planning system, the vendor questions and the conversation scripts work anywhere. The cost examples in the Hidden Costs guide use US conventions like postage rates and catering service charges, so treat those figures as a prompt to check your local equivalent rather than a price list. Everything is priced in USD.

Start with the Command Center tonight.

Twenty minutes in the Start Here tab and you will see your whole wedding in one place for the first time.

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